10 Days of Silence: My Vipassana Meditation Retreat Experience

Vivian Zhang PT,DPT
Meditation Retreat Experience
Vipassana meditation is a powerful practice for enhancing mental well-being by teaching individuals how to observe and respond to their thoughts and emotions without immediate reaction. Earlier this year, I made the decision to enroll in a Vipassana meditation course with the intention of improving my mental health and strengthening my personal meditation practice. Little did I know that this decision would lead me to a 10-day silent retreat, an experience that would prove to be a profound physical and mental challenge like nothing I had ever done before.

As I arrived at the meditation center, I was, perhaps ironically, greeted by an air of anticipation and bustling energy as students were making last minute phone calls to loved ones, saying their final goodbyes, and exchanging greetings with friends before the silence started. After checking in, I was provided with a map of the retreat center, a schedule, and paperwork outlining the retreat’s rules. I was then handed a bag, into which I surrendered my cell phone, writing tools, other electronic devices, and anything else that could facilitate communication. These items would remain off-limits until after the course ended. Considering I had never been without my phone for more than a day before this experience, this detachment from technology felt surprisingly liberating.

I then made my way to my assigned sleeping quarter, unpacked my belongings, and proceeded to the dining hall where our first group meeting was scheduled. We each had assigned seats where I would be silently eating my meals each day, which consisted of breakfast, lunch, and an afternoon snack (yes, that’s right, no dinner). During our initial meeting, we were introduced to the ‘code of discipline’, which required us to embrace Noble Silence – silence of body, speech, and mind – as well as adhere to a strict set of guidelines: no talking, no reading, no writing, no lying, no stealing, no sexual activity, no use of intoxicants, no physical contact, no eating past noon except for a snack for new students, no adornments for the body, and no indulging in luxurious or elevated sleeping arrangements. I couldn’t help but feel nervous about adhering to these rules initially. Would I truly be able to follow them?

For the next 10 days, it was just me, my thoughts, and the guidance of our meditation teacher. Each day, we followed a strict schedule of meditation sessions, beginning at the crack of dawn and ending well into the evening. We had the opportunity to stretch our legs with a few walking breaks throughout the day, but we were encouraged to move slowly and mindfully, without rushing. Our evenings were further enriched by Dharma talks, lectures on Buddhism, thoughtfully delivered by S.N. Goenka, a renowned Vipassana meditation teacher and the founder of the Vipassana International Academy. This became one of my favorite aspects of the retreat, as it profoundly contributed to understanding the underlying principles behind our meditation practice.

My journey began with the simple act of focusing on my breath, honing my ability to observe the sensation of air as it moved in and out of the nostrils. This exercise, seemingly mundane at first, served as a potent tool for building my mental capacity for mindfulness. As we progressed, we transitioned to observing physical sensations, no matter how big or small, comfortable or uncomfortable, without reacting. This phase proved to be remarkably challenging. The sensations encompassed feelings like itching, tickling, numbness, coolness, heat, and even pain. The key concept was to approach these sensations with the understanding that everything, including physical sensations, is transient, and therefore, there is no need to react. We learned to be fully present with these physical sensations, mastering the art of neither clinging to them nor pushing them away.

As the days passed, the real challenge began. I found myself having to confront many of my inner demons without reacting to them. Memories, fears, toxic narratives, and suppressed emotions bubbled up to the surface, demanding to be acknowledged. It was in these moments that I came to truly understand the power of nonreactive observation. It was especially fascinating to witness my reactions to what initially seemed like minor inconveniences or everyday occurrences, such as waiting in line to wash dishes after a meal, the absence of bananas in the fruit bowl for my breakfast oatmeal, or an unexpected rain shower disrupting a planned walk. These moments served as opportunities for self-reflection and growth. I also encountered periods of profound peace and joy, often found in the smallest things; marveling over the arduous journey ants take while ascending a tree, the hypnotizing patterns in which raindrops adorned flower petals after a storm, the chitter of local chipmunks running around in the garden. These experiences revealed the inherent beauty in life’s simplest moments.

Around the halfway point, I faced an extreme sense of restlessness. As a New York City resident and a physical therapist accustomed to living an active lifestyle, having to sit for up to 10 hours a day proved to be one of the most challenging aspects of the experience. I even attempted to craft an ergonomic seat using the meditation cushions we were provided, but it turned out to be almost too comfortable, causing me to drift into drowsiness. Eventually, I found solace in a meditation bench, which alleviated the numbness that often afflicted my right foot when sitting cross-legged on a meditation cushion. My body ached, my mind rebelled, and my inner voice screamed for release. But the teachings of Vipassana reminded me that everything is impermanent, even my suffering. I learned to observe the sensations of discomfort with equanimity, realizing that they, too, would pass.

Even though my external environment and daily schedule remained relatively consistent, the internal landscape of my experience could vary dramatically from one day to the next, with each day presenting distinct challenges. Some proved to be significantly more challenging than others, and there were moments when the desire to escape and quit altogether became almost overwhelming. Imagine COVID-19 quarantine minus the comforting rituals like bread baking, video games, and Zoom happy hours – that’s what it felt like sometimes. However, it didn’t take long for me to recognize that the primary factor influencing my experience was my mindset and once I did, a sense of peace would take over.

During the last few days of the retreat, a remarkable transformation began to take place. My mind, once a turbulent sea of thoughts, started to calm. I became more accustomed to sitting still, felt less physical discomfort, and achieved a personal milestone when I was finally able to sit for an entire hour without fidgeting. Within this newfound stillness, however, an unexpected challenge emerged as I started to feel attached to the feeling of presence and inner peace, along with the pride that came from accomplishing an hour-long meditation. I began to cast judgments onto others who fidgeted during their sittings and, even worse, started to judge myself if I couldn’t maintain stillness for the entire hour later in the day. This experience served as a valuable lesson, teaching me the importance of letting go of attachment to not just adverse sensations, but pleasant sensations as well. I came to understand that even peace and comfort are impermanent in nature, and holding onto them only leads to more suffering, as they too ultimately pass.

On the tenth day, the silence was finally broken, and we were allowed to speak again. At first, it felt foreign, almost like I had forgotten how to communicate. I hesitated to introduce myself, as over the past week and a half I had grown accustomed to silently observing people’s shoes, clothes, and the back of their heads. Many of us had worn stoic expressions throughout the retreat, making it challenging to discern if people were approachable or not. However, this day turned out to be one of my favorites. It quickly became clear why Noble Silence was essential. It was easy to judge our own meditation experiences based on others’ experiences or become lost in thought about what someone said. If we had been able to talk during the retreat, it could have significantly impacted our ability to remain present and equanimous. Nevertheless, having the opportunity to connect with other students and hear about their experiences was truly special and comforting. Many shared similar ups and downs to what I had experienced, making me feel less alone. I also discovered that some students had arrived with no prior meditation experience, while others were seasoned practitioners who had attended multiple times. To my amazement, one student not only returned to the retreat yearly, but also chose to stay for two months, emphasizing the lasting impact this practice could have on one’s life.

The last day of the retreat also involved us exploring the practice of Metta meditation, also known as loving-kindness meditation as an extension of Vipassana. Metta meditation involves nurturing feelings of love, compassion, and goodwill, extending them not only to ourselves but to all sentient beings. During this practice, we silently recited phrases like “May all beings be happy, may all beings be peaceful, may all beings be free from suffering” allowing us to radiate love and kindness into the world. It was a beautiful way to conclude our retreat, enhancing our ability to both receive and give love.

Entering the retreat, I had a logical understanding of concepts like impermanence, living in the present moment, and the nature of the egoic mind. However, having the opportunity to immerse myself in these concepts for ten days and apply them to my day-to-day life was truly life changing. Vipassana has given me a precious gift—the ability to observe my thoughts and emotions without being controlled by them. Moreover, this experience helped me develop a deeper sense of empathy for individuals living with chronic pain, enabling me to better understand the physical and mental challenges they face. It has reinforced the importance of not just addressing physical symptoms, but also nurturing the mental resilience needed to cope with pain effectively. In my clinical work, I am now an even bigger advocate for the integration of mindfulness techniques and encourage patients to explore meditation as a complementary tool in their pain management strategies.


Starting Your Vipassana Meditation Journey: A Step-by-Step Guide

Vipassana meditation offers a range of valuable benefits, including increased mindfulness, stress reduction, improved emotional regulation, reduced chronic pain, and greater self-awareness. With consistent practice, individuals often experience personal transformation, cultivating inner peace and wisdom. This makes it an excellent complement to your work in physical therapy, as it can significantly enhance your mental well-being, which in turn has a profound impact on your physical health and overall wellness.

If you’d like to explore Vipassana meditation in the comfort of your own home, here are the steps to follow:

  1. Find a Quiet Space:
    • Choose a peaceful, distraction-free location for your meditation.
  2. Find a Comfortable Seat:
    • Sit on a meditation cushion or in a chair.
    • Sit with your back straight and your head in a neutral position.
    • Ideally, you should maintain an upright sitting posture to prevent drowsiness. However, if you feel the need to lie down, you may do so.
  3. Anapana Meditation:
    • Start with Anapana meditation by focusing on your natural breath, specifically the sensation around your nostrils.
    • Acknowledge wandering thoughts and gently return your attention to your breath.
  4. Transition to Vipassana:
    • Systematically scan your body from head to toe, observing bodily sensations with equanimity.
  5. Maintain Focus:
    • Stay attentive to your sensations, welcoming all experiences without attachment or aversion.
    • Manage distractions by acknowledging them and returning your attention to the physical sensations in your body.
  6. Consistent Practice:
    • Establish a daily meditation routine, gradually increasing session duration.

Overcoming Meditation Challenges: Tips for Beginners

Vipassana meditation can benefit a wide range of individuals, but it can be challenging for beginners. Remember that meditation is a skill that improves with time and consistent effort. It’s normal to have thoughts, discomfort, and challenges during your practice. Many people often feel intimidated by meditation and may say, “I can’t meditate” because they can’t seem to stop thinking. However, it’s important to understand that thoughts are not only normal but expected. When thoughts arise, which they inevitably will, the meditator’s role is to not suppress or forcibly silence them, but rather observe them with equanimity. If you are struggling to meditate, consider trying some of these beginner suggestions:

  • Short sessions: Begin with short 10–15-minute meditation sessions and gradually increase the duration as your meditation practice becomes easier.
  • Guided meditations: Start with guided Vipassana or mindfulness meditation sessions. This can help you understand the practice and keep you focused.
  • Just Watch the Breath: Start with observing your breath as it is a more accessible entry point for beginners. This can help strengthen your ability to be present and observe physical sensations before moving onto a full body scan.
  • Daily mindfulness: Practice mindfulness in your daily activities, such as mindful eating, walking, or even washing dishes. This can help you cultivate mindfulness without having to necessarily sit in meditation.

Managing Pain Through Meditation: Tips for Those with Chronic Pain

Vipassana can be a valuable tool for individuals with chronic pain, as it enhances one’s ability to observe pain without judgment. This skill can often alleviate symptoms by reducing the mental and emotional amplification of pain sensations. However, for individuals living with chronic pain, it’s important to approach this practice with the appropriate support and guidance. Both the physical demands of sitting for prolonged periods of time and the heightened awareness that comes with body scanning can potentially intensify pain sensations, which can make your pain worse without the right tools. It is therefore highly recommended that you consult with a medical provider, such as a physical therapist, to establish a comprehensive pain management plan before starting a Vipassana practice. This plan should equip you with strategies to manage pain flares effectively, so that if pain arises during a meditation, you aren’t overwhelmed by fear or anxiety, which can exacerbate symptoms.

When building your pain management toolbox, working with a physical therapist can be immensely beneficial. Your physical therapist may offer various tools and strategies tailored to your specific needs. Examples of what your physical therapist might provide include heat or ice therapy, the use of a ball or foam roller for selfmyofascial release, pain science education to help you better understand your pain, a customized exercise program, assistance in finding a comfortable sitting position for meditation, and guidance on lifestyle and behavioral modifications or other interventions that could be beneficial to you. Having a strong support system and an effective pain management strategy in place helps to ensure a safe and positive meditation experience.


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